In the mid 1970’s the first Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACA) meeting was started in Manhattan by a group in Alanon who found they had a lot in common from growing up in alcoholic families. Out of this group “The Laundry List” created by Tony A. became the foundation of ACA and when others heard this list felt as if it could have been a list they had written about themselves. You can learn more about the ACA program at their web site http://www.adultchildren.org
Out of the alcohol treatment community, concepts of dysfunctional family dynamics started to come forward in articles by Claudia Black, Stephanie Brown and Sharon Wegscheider-Cruse. The general public seemed to be introduced to dysfunctional families by the John Bradshaw 1988 PBS series and his first book, Bradshaw on the Family. This launched the Co-Dependency and Inner Child movement, opening up treatment programs, the John Bradshaw treatment program here in Los Angeles for one and workshops across the country helping people to reclaim their inner child.
These characteristics of growing up in an Alcoholic family seem to fit growing up in any family that experiences a lot of chaos and trauma.
Here is the original “laundry list” if you are curious click on the picture for an enlarged image: The-Original-Laundry-List-1977
Here is a list of possible characteristics; it is not the original “laundry list”
You may recognize some of them.
by Dr. Janet G. Woititz.
Adult Children:
In working with John Bradshaw he would use the term compulsivity to describe all addictive/repetitive behavior, which is a term I have adopted. With ACA people they have grown up in a world without boundaries and stability which has compromised their sense of self. This lack of self- identity often leads to confusion (inability to locate one’s needs & wants), self-loathing, and a feeling of loss of control of their environment.
The first step is recognizing these characteristics in yourself and understanding how your view of the world and yourself has been shaped from the world you grew up in. Many of these beliefs about yourself are not accurate, they were more about the person who viewed you this way than who you really are. Now you are finding new definitions for yourself. This view, like when we were children, comes from people reflecting back how they see us, and it is our job to test these perceptions out and see if they fit. The role of ACA meetings or psychotherapy can be to help you find an alternate sense of yourself, not that the old one leaves completely but you now have the opportunity to stop yourself and say is this true about me? You can choose an alternate behavior or path, learn your needs and wants, which leads to better relationships with yourself and others.
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